11 Best Interpersonal Communication Skills for Better Influence

March is already here, team! Can you believe it? For those who don’t know me, hi, I’m Mary. I’m back to share more insights into how you can Find, Be, and Build your positive influence. This month, I’ve been reflecting on and contemplating the best interpersonal communication skills. In Gratitude Group, we are reading the I in Team series together, and it’s asking all of us to be vulnerable with one another. It’s demanding that we speak and listen with positive influence. So, hey, here are our top 11 best interpersonal communication skills you can adopt today to be a better leader.
1) Active Listening
Active listening involves giving your full attention to the person who is speaking. Focus on what they are saying, ask clarifying questions, and repeat back what you hear. Part of active listening involves being patient and not rushing someone. Give people space and time to express themselves without interrupting them.
2) Emotional Intelligence
One of the most consistently highly rated interpersonal communication skills is emotional intelligence, or the ability to recognize and manage your own emotions while also accurately reading and responding to the emotions of others. intelligence:pically involved in emotional intelligence; empathy is understanding another person’s perspective and emotional state without judgment.
3) Storytelling
People love a good story, so knowing how to weave a narrative that keeps people engaged is an excellent way to develop interpersonal communication skills. Story-building keeps information memorable and is emotionally engaging. Think about all your favorite movies; you probably like them because they elicit emotions you are comfortable with and they tell a story that resonates with you. If you can do this with your team, they will learn faster and you all will become stronger.
4) Clear Verbal Communication
While this may seem like a very obvious interpersonal communication skill, clear verbal communication is often missed. That’s why we like to advocate for S.M.A.R.T. communication tactics. Before sending an email or leaving a conversation, ask yourself if you were clear (specific), if you set realistic expectations, if your task is measurable and attainable for the person you delegated to, and if you set an appropriate deadline (timely). By expressing your ideas concisely and logically, the S.M.A.R.T. way, others are more likely to understand you.
5) Nonverbal Awareness
A large part of communication involves nonverbal cues. Reading and using body language, tone, eye contact, and posture effectively enhance or detract from communication.
6) Setting Boundaries
Communicating your needs and boundaries without aggression is key to having a better influence with others. You can clearly define what is and what is not acceptable in work settings by learning “yes and…” or “no but…” You can also learn how to flat out just say no.
7) Constructive Feedback
Learning how to give and receive constructive feedback with grace is a valuable aspect of interpersonal communication skills. Helping someone to improve requires tactful communication, and hearing feedback from others requires self-regulation and focus.
8) Conflict Resolution
Learning how to resolve disagreements constructively to reach mutually beneficial outcomes increases your influence as a leader and shows your team you are trustworthy in stressful situations. Remain calm, stay emotionally intelligent, and self-regulate. Self-regulation involves staying calm and composed even during stressful or emotional conversations.
9) Adaptability
There will be times when you have to communicate with people of different cultures, learning styles, intelligence, personalities, and more. Having an adaptable communication style and being able to meet people where they are will significantly increase your influence.
10) Powerful Questions
If you’re helping a team member through a problem or task, be mindful to ask powerful questions. These should be open-ended questions that help promote insight and clarity. Sometimes it’s best to ask questions to help someone work through their problem rather than trying to solve their problem for them.
11) Ethical Persuasion
Inspiring action through ethical persuasion is the goal of any good leader. You will need to use all your interpersonal communication skills to ethically influence and inspire positive action in your team.
Interpersonal Communication Skills Summary
Increasing your interpersonal communication skills doesn’t have to be a daunting task. If you find that you are struggling in multiple areas, don’t take them on all at once. Choose one skill to improve in about 4-6 weeks. Find an accountability partner and ask them about your improvement. Be honest with your team about what you’re working on.
If you want your team to work together on these skills, consider contacting
IA Business Advisors. We provide team development coaching and sessions to help improve the culture of your business.











